A few days ago I was shocked to hear that someone I have known for almost two decades died suddenly. There was no illness, no warning. She just celebrated her 50th birthday with such excitement and was looking forward to what life had to bring.
As I and the many others who love her were stunned by the news, there were no words to express the pain and confusion we were left to endure. Our entire community was shaken to the core, uncertain of what to do. Suddenly, all that once was secure is now questionable. Hows and whys consume our thoughts.
What I am learning about coping with losses of such significance, is to first allow yourself to feel whatever you feel without judging your feelings.
Secondly, be gentle to yourself in times of loss. Don't expect to be successful in going forward with business as usual.
Third. It is not unusual to spend energy and time trying to answer questions. We often feel as making sense of things will lessen the impact of the loss. It does not.
Finally, talk about it. There is power in sharing thoughts and feelings. Finding support with loved ones or even professionally, can offer what you need to move forward in a positive way.
Thank you Angie for your beautiful smile and big heart.
We are better because of you.
"The memory of the righteous is a blessing.” Proverbs 10:7
With over 20 years of experience in the mental health field, I strive to live life at the highest of my potential and work to support others in doing the same. These are some thoughts and reflections along the way.